do you want to see the snow?

Do you think he would come up to visit me over Christmas break? I asked myself.  Well it can’t hurt to ask.

I proceeded to send him a far too lengthy Facebook message to invite him to come see the snow; which would be a very different climate than he was used to. My friends were sure that I was asking something far out of reach; but my intuition told me otherwise. I knew he would book his flight because I knew that he was taken with me as I was with him.

“Guys, Guys, he messaged me!” I squealed during our study group.

“Well what did he say?” they all asked in wonderment.

“He said ‘Hey.’” I replied.  If eye-rolls could kill, the looks I was getting would’ve killed me many times over.

“That’s all it takes?” Chima said, “oh boy are you in trouble” she trailed off.

It’s not like she told me something I did not already know.  What started off as a fun game to be charming and flirty had spiraled me into a full-blown crush.

But I knew he liked me too because all of a sudden he was looking at me differently, finding reasons to talk to me and once slipped and said “that’s why I love you” under his breath.

When he booked his $400 flight, I wasn’t surprised.  My friends were in shock, but I was confident in the connection that we were building.

the guy in pink pants

I didn’t mean to fall for him as much as I did.  I met this guy once before, but never thought much of that encounter. I liked being single and I liked being able to focus on school, but I did miss having a crush. So months later at a party I marched over to my girlfriend and made a bold statement:

“Do you see that guy in the pink pants over there?” I asked. “I’ve decided that I’m going to have a crush on him tonight. I want to dance with a cute boy but at 10pm I’m calling it quits and that will be the end of that!” I proclaimed.

My friend thought I was joking, but I truly was not.  So I dug out my charm that had been hiding for about a year; I got flirty and batted my eyes, because well, he was very easy on the eyes.  I pretended to like him but then something funny happened, I realized that I wasn’t pretending anymore because it was 2 O’clock in the morning. Now I knew I was in trouble and suddenly I regretted not shaving my legs.

a bad investment

I came across a quote today from the ever-sexy Matthew Hussy, dating guru. He said, “don’t invest in a guy based on how much you like him, invest in a guy based on how much he invests in you.” Whoa. Mind. Blown.  Now I know what mistake I’ve been making in my love life!  I’ve always approached everything based on how much I like something.  I love to dance, so I always want to go out dancing.  I love to sing so I’m always looking for opportunities to perform.  But Mr. Hussy’s advice is so spot on.  Why should I invest more time, effort and love in a guy than he does in me?  I come from a family where we talk about everything (and I mean everything at the dinner table). Nothing has ever been off-limits…periods, boners, religion, politics…I’m being completely serious.  So it was only natural for me to become somewhat of an open book and to wear my heart on my sleeve.  I always thought that following your heart was the way to go…but I think I need to take a step back and work on guarding my heart a little more and then maybe just maybe I won’t get so heart-broken all the time.

Welcome to my blog!!

Hi, my name is Holly and welcome to my new blog! I’ve had my heart stomped on one too many times; so rather than sulk in my room, I decided to share my life’s stories with strangers on the internet.  Seems logical to me!  This will not be a blog you will want to miss! I’ll share the good, the bad and the ugly because that’s what life is; life is messy and life certainly isn’t a Disney movie (dang it, right?!).  After many years of walking down a broken road I know my soul mate is waiting for me at the bend, I just need to find that bend…wherever that may be.  Good thing I’ll be moving around a lot for school because then I’m bound to find that magical bend; at least that’s the way I figure it right now – I’ll keep you posted.

But in all seriousness, even though life is messy and love is a tricky business as I always say. Everyone deserves love, everyone deserves to be loved and second chances are ok because nobody is perfect.  Ok I already love you for reading my blog.  Comment below, follow me on twitter @singlegirlholly and let’s start on a new journey to love together. Cheers!